First Month Back at Work Update 🤓💗

My first work back at work has been a rollercoaster of emotions. I went back to work full time to see how it went. Full time meant working 3 12 hour shifts or 2 12 hour shifts and 2 six hour shifts.

To start off with I loved it. I am not going to lie. By the time my maternity leave was ending Ruaidhrí was hard work. He was constantly crying, not sleeping and just all round clingy. I got so jealous of the other half going out to work even though is work hours are short, those arms with a non clingy and non crying baby were what I craved. I cried constantly and felt so guilty that Roman wasn’t getting enough of my time.

So those 36 hours a week of going back to work were like a little piece of heaven sent to me. During the first few weeks Ruaidhrí was being difficult to settle with people and not just any one but family. This boy made it difficult for us to go to work. Which in turn made us both feel guilty ad our parents had to go through a hard time with him. 

So since my second week in returning to work I have been having a daily struggle with myself on whether to reduce my hours to 24. I am now into my sixth week back and off with an injury. I am a care assistant and going into work tired with a baby that has trouble sleeping through the night and through the day also. The decision has been made. Come September my hours will be reduced. 

It’s not fair on us both working full time jobs while all us parents know that being a parent is a full time job. There is no set hours for being a parent it’s basically when you open your eyes to when you close your eyes. And there is no time limit on his ling your eyes are closed. We struggle to get up some days are harder than others.

It’s not fair on our children as they are not getting the best of us. Some days I feel they are getting the best of me. I am on top of everything the children, the house, the job, the bills and even myself. Other days I just feel like I’m failing at everything, juggling 2 young children, a full time job and trying to keep the house respectable. I want my boys to be happy and to have fun and to enjoy like with us. I know that you don’t need to give your children expensive gifts to make them happy. And it’s one thing I plan not to do. I want them to have the memories they can look back on and remember they had good and happy times with us while growing up. This was a big part in my decision in reducing my hours. 

It’s not fair on my work colleagues me arriving into work tired, yes I still do my work but I am totally exhausted. 

Maybe when Ruaidhrí is that bit older I can pick up my hours again but at the moment I think that 24 hours is enough to balance my family and work life balance. I want to be that mum who bring a their kids to all their sports practices and go to every game. I want to be there to do their homework with them to watch them grow into the fine young boys and men they are going to be. And at the moment me reducing my hours at work and being at home more with my boys is what is best for my family and for myself at this moment.

The struggle is real for parents going back to work. It’s a hard transition being with your child everyday to not. For me I was happy for the break to start with but boy do you miss them like crazy.

Do not be hard on yourself. Only you know what’s the best decision for you and tour family. I wasn’t sure that’s why I went back to work full time. I made sure I waited a few weeks just to try and work out what was best and to make sure my emotions were not getting in the way. Now I know and I am happy with the decision I have made to reduce my working hours.

Happy Birthday Roman 🎂🍭🎁🎈🎉

Dear Roman, 

I would like to say happy birthday to my little guy. You are now a big 5 year old. I know this post is a few days late. However, we celebrated your birthday for the whole day and then went to the caravan the next were there is no Wi-Fi. So this post will not be posted until we get home.

I would just like to say thank you for be the amazing kid you are. You are kind, generous, sensitive, loving, caring and would share with almost everyone (unless it’s your uncle Anthony). 

Being your mum for the last five years has been amazing. You changed me from the moment I found out you were on your way. You have made me see the strength in myself I never knew I had and I hope that I pass some of that on to you. 

You make every day so magical for me and I hope that I do the same for you. This year was the first year we did not have a big party. We spent your birthday as a family. The four of us and we had the most awesome time. You got to see all the family and open your presents in the morning. Go Indiana Land the toy shoo and had McDonald’s for dinner. We then went home played with your toys again and toys from the toystore. We had some of your Pokemon birthday cake. And you fell asleep on the sofa out cold from all the excitement from that day. I gotta say I thoroughly enjoyed spending the whole day with you. I know you will have parties again in the future and will be off with your friends. So this birthday was special for you and and for me and I took in and enjoyed every moment with my now 5 year old big boy. 

I look forward to watching you grow into the young man you are becoming. I love you son. Always and Forever. Your Mum xxxxx

My Weekly Adventures with R&R!!! 😜🙄😯

Monday morning came and so did another 12 hour shift (fml) is what I use to say. But I have to say spending sometime away from the kids makes my time with them that little but better and special. Ruaidhrí was out cold by the time I got home. However, I did get a video chat with him on my lunch break. And Roman was showing me his new bike he got for birthday next week from granny. Roman was still out playing by the time I got home. So I was still able to see him. Instead of a story he wanted to play his 3DS for a bit. And since it’s the summer holidays I bedtime strictness will become I bit leaner. We got chatting after his DS time and told me his favourite part of his day was going to Smyths toy store. Well duh!!! That was a silly question for me to ask. Of course that would be his favourite part.

Tuesday I got up early with the kids. Well I let Roman lie on for a bit as it is the summer. Once everyone had breakfast and was ready we were out of the house for 10am and on our way to Funky Monkey’s soft play area. Oh Goddd!!! I strongly dislike those places unless we are either the first ones or last ones there. I think its mostly just a place were parents come to let their kids go wild and they just sit blatantly ignoring their kids while just staring into their phone for the next hour and a half. Anyways moving on, i brought the two boys to Funky Monkey’s as I was meeting up with a friend who was back from Australia for a few weeks and as I had the boys, she got her nephew and we all went to Funky Monkey’s . However, dipso here forgets her phone and has no way to contact her friend to let her know that we are there haha… I can be a real dipshit sometimes. She did arrive an hour later and I stayed an hour over what I paid for ooopppsss!!!! Ruaidhrí loved it and started to kiss his reflection again and loved climbing all over the play stuff. That was until like I mentioned earlier, parents not giving a shit about what their kids do once they get there. Older kids were running mad and nearly jumping on top of the babies. Roman had a ball with my friends nephew and I did not see him unless it was for drinks.  Once we left and went home the sister in law to be called. Roman was off up to stay with her tonight as they are away for his birthday. So he went to the toy store two days in a row the lucky boy and got to pick a birthday present. He then went back to the sister in laws for  a sleepover. He didn’t even say bye when he left, don’t even think he looked back lol… the little shite!!! Ruaidhrí went to stay with his granny and granda, so Paul and I were kid free. Although, with Ruaidhrí’s recent behaviour we were expecting a phone call. During our free time we went to see my new little niece Baby Ella. OMG she is so beautiful, I just wanted to take her home with me. We also had an appointment with the wedding planner, which went well. Once we got home it was a chinese and bed for us.

No kids and I am still up from 6.30am. Think its just my normal body clock, however when the kids are here I could sleep like there is no tomorrow. So Wednesday, another day off work for me and I have the house cleaned by 9am. Go upstairs to Paul and we get ready to go collect Ruaidhrí from his granny and granda. NO PHONE CALL WAS RECIEVED!!!! Roman went off to  the cinema to watch the new minions film out as part of his birthday gift, with his aunt, uncle and cousins. While he was there Ruaidhrí, Paul and I went out for coffee and lunch. Well the child sure did not have coffee. He’s already a handful. Once Roman got home we went to the hospital to see Baby Ella. The two boys fell asleep in the car so I just went in for 15 minutes to see her. We were going to make a day out of it but by the time them two woke up from their naps, it was way to late in the day to do anything. We went home had dinner and played with the boys. Roman then went out to play with his friends and was out on his old bike. He was embarrassed to go out on his new bike because it had stabiliser’s on it. So Paul got them off and went out with him for 15 minutes to help him find his balance as the new bike is a lot bigger than his old bike. Once he got the hang of it, we didn’t see him for the rest of the night. Until we called him to come a walk round the lake with us to try and get Ruaidhrí to sleep. This boy had no intention on sleeping. he wants out with all the other kids and he just doesn’t know that he is not able too. Anyways two of Roman’s friends came with us on the walk and they had fun driving all their bikes round. Especially as one of them got his stabiliser’s off too.

Thursday was a 12 hour shift in work for me. So the boys were dropped off to their granny that morning and she brought them to Funky Monkey’s. My aunt also brought over my wee niece and nephew as their mum was in having their baby sister. So all the cousins were in Funky Monkey’s and then went back to my mum’s house for a while. I also got a text to say Ruaidhrí cut his first tooth today. So happy that its finally through. Daddy picked the boys up after work and Ruaidhrí played up something shocking I was informed when I got home. He just fought an fought to go to sleep even though he had not slept. I wonder when babies start to get the memo that once they are tired to go to sleep. As they will feel much better afterwards. Paul went to shop when I got home and got all stuff for smokies as Roman away to his Nanny’s for a week. So we had a wee party night.

Ruaidhrí slept muchbetter last night than he has done in a while for the both of us. Once he woke at 5am i gave him a bottle and he went back over until 8am.  We got up and had breakfast and waited for Roman to wake up which was just after 9am. We all played a bit and then granny called in and seen the two boys for a while. Roman then went out with her to run a few errands and came back at 12pm. While Ruaidhrí slept the whole time. Once Ruaidhrí had his lunch we were then off to drop Roman off to his Nanny’s. At least I got a hug and kiss this time a whole week. I hate when he is  gone but its good for him to spend time with his other family and his daddy. I can’t be greedy even though I want to be all the time with him. Ruaidhrí and I then went to pick up Roman’s birthday outfit. We met up with granny and then daddy picked us up. We went home and played trying to get Ruaidhrí to crawl. He get’s up on all fours just doesn’t know to crawl yet.

Saturday morning was spent in work until 2pm. I went to my mum’s to pick the child up and to wait on Paul to pick us up. Ruaidhrí and I were playing on the floor. He got up into all fours and crawled sideways  (crab style 🦀🦀) for like 2 seconds. Once Paul picked us up we went food shopping and birthday present shopping for Roman. During this time Ruaidhrí napped and woke up just as we were heading home. We got dinner on got the child bathed and played with him some more and guess what he crawled yes he did. Check out the post on him crawling you Here Crawling Milestone. I tell you now mummy and daddy were so happy and proud of this little guy. He was shattered once going to bed and out straight away.

Sunday morning was also spent in work until 2pm. Paul and Ruaidhrí picked me up and as soon as we got home the little guy cuddled into me for a nap. Oh how I miss him so much and I am sure gonna lap up as much cuddle naps as I can. As soon enough he won’t want them. Anyways Paul brought him up to bed while we had lunch and once he woke we went to Granny Eileen’s and Granda Paul’s (Paul’s mum and dad’s). Ruaidhrí had a ball playing with all the toys and playing with Granny and Granda. We tried to get him to crawl for them but he just wasn’t having it. However, once he’s home he starts crawling again. I swear this child is so smart for his own good. He knows what he’s up too. We ended our day with Ruaidhrí and I getting a bath together then back downstairs for some more playtime until bedtime.

This week has surely been an eventful week for the little guy. So many milestones reached.

Someone Reached the Crawling Milestone 🤗😁😕

Check out the video of the little guy crawling 👇👇👇👇

So yesterday a milestone was reached yet again this week. By good God what a week this has been for Ruaidhrí.

He is bloody well crawling. It’s amazing I am so proud and so his his dad. On the other hand wtf is going to happen next. Hahaha 

Just as long as he doesn’t make his own version of the film Baby’s Day Out then we are all good here.

Also I think it’s time to invest in one of those babygrows that has the floor mop bristles attached to them. If baby wants to crawl, baby can clean while he’s doing it. 

Welcome to the Family Baby Ella 👶💛💜💗💟

So my cousin had another little beautiful baby girl on July 4th, weighing in at 8lbs. That was something that no one was expecting as she was so neat and her bump small. I think little Ella’s weight came more of a shock to her mum than anyone else. But boy is she beautiful.

I just wanted to take her home it makes me so broody seeing all newborns. Then I got to remember I have a big baby at home who is a bit of handful. Anyways back to Ella. She has this head full of black hair and these gorgeous full lips and she sucks the bottom one in. You can tell I’m totally in love with her can’t you.

Here is a few pictures of the newest member to our family. Mother and baby are doing great. Plus Ella has one of the best mum’s in the world anyways. 

Parent Fail

Its not a big parent fail well to a four year old it is!!

(Happened a few weeks ago)

Roman’s Pre-school were having an odd socks day as a pupil was raising money for charity and this was a way for all the other students to help him while also having fun. After going on and on about it all week to him Paul gets home from dropping him off and said that its odd socks day today. Well wasn’t I in the bad books once he got home from school as all his friends had odd socks on and he didn’t.

Bad mummy I am!!!

But at least he forgave after a while. He seriously went into a huff though. This picture was from a few months back, I just love his wee face have promised to not forget anything starting from today. As I have missed quite  a few things to be honest. Still going to blame it on the baby brain.

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My Week of Adventures with R&R!!!

(This post was wrote for the week of June 19th – June 25th and I forgot to publish only just realising now.)

This week had been a tough week to say the least…

I started back to work after 9 months off on maternity leave. That wasn’t the tough part, 30 minutes back at work it felt like I never left. Got home from work and Roman ran uo the atreet to give me the biggest hug. That felt so good. You thought i was gone for a whole week thw tight tgat little hug was. Ruaidhrí was in bed so I just spent somw time with roman before bedtime. Our bedtime story for this week was Disney Cars. However Monday night Ruaidhrí ended up with a temperature of 40°c I finally got him cooled down and he seemed fine.

Tuesday Roman went off to school and Ruaidhrí was in good form his temperature down and he was eating and drinking away. We picked Roman up from school a little earlier than usual and the two boys and I jumped on a train to Auntie  Mimi’s who lives in Lurgan way out in the countryside. The weather was beautiful. We played in Auntie Mimi’s big beautiful garden all afternoon. Mimi and Roman had water fights. We played tennis done obstacle courses and went to the park. Ruaidhrí slept most of the time. This was very unusual for him but I put it down to the fresh country air. However, as he were leaving he started to slump to the side and just going in and out of a dase. Something wasn’t right and as soon as we got in train to go home he started screaming. Paul met us at the train station and brought us home. We checked his temperature it was at 39°c. To the hospital we went dropping Roman of at his granny and granda’s first. After a few hours we were told Ruaidhrí has a tummy bug and that he should be over it in a few days. His temperature was back down and stayed down so we got sent home.

After work on Wednesday I could not wait to get home to the kids. We had a chilled out afternoon with the weather being warm. Roman played out on his bike and after Ruaidhrí’s nap we went walking and cycling by the lake. It was such a beautiful evening for it. Ruaidhrí was on the mend and was back to his usual self. Once Ruaidhrí went to bed Roman and I played Lego dimensions before going to bed and reading more of Disney Cars.

I worked a 12 hour shift Thursday so Ruaidhrí was in bed before I got home. Roman saw me when he was out on his bike and cycled to me and gave me a big hug. We all played Lego dimensions including Paul and I was able to read him the last part of Disney Cars before bed.

I woke up Friday morning to Ruaidhrí being covered from the top if his head down to his bum in a rash. Straight to the hospital we went again. By the time we got to the hospital the rash had got worse. The doctors had confirmed that it was due to his viral tummy bug but we are to keep a close eye on him. I was sick (literally) the fear I had when I saw his rash. I was scared to death thinking the worse. Not only have a been getting use to going back to work full time but Ruaidhrí had had me up to high doe this week with my nerves due to him being sick. I know it’s not his fault poor child still doesn’t stop me with my anxiety thinking the worse. Roman got dropped of to his Nanny’s to spend the weekend at his dad’s. While Paul and I went home to enjoy a nice quiet day and night. We just chilled out with the wee man and he seems on much better form. The rash is still there I just hope it starts to settle soon.

Saturday morning was spent at work. Finished at 2pm with little Ruaidhrí coming to collect me after work.  We went to see great Granda Toner for a while. After that we made our way to the fun day by the lake beside my mums. It was near over by the time we got there as it started while I was at work. Ruaidhrí loved the band that was playing and couldn’t keep his eyes of them. After the fun day we went to granny and granda’s both of us had a nap. We woke up to it being 6.30pm haha… so it was time to go home for dinner and bath and some play time before bedtime. By the time Paul and I went to sleep Ruaidhrí had already been awake a few times you could tell that we were on for a rough night.

So today is Sunday and this morning started at 5am 😣😣😣 it never gets easy getting up that early.  Seriously I don’t think Ruaidhrí got the memo when he made his way down my vagina that babies are meant to sleep most of their time away until the age of 1. Anyways his rash has disappeared Thank the Lord. That was one scary way to wake up on Friday morning. We spent our early morning chilling on the living room floor playing with toys and holding my eyelids open with matchsticks. He went back down for a nap at 7 and so did I. Back up at 9 had breakfast then down at half 10 with me along with him. We woke up just after 12pm and started to get ready to go collect Roman from his dad’s. Once Roman was collected we made our way to Mimi’s in Lurgan for a bit. Then on out to Oxford Island to show Roman were we are going to go camping in the summer. He loved it was so excited and so am I. It will be his first time going camping this summer and we are going with cousins so it should be a fun few days. We got home and had a lovely Sunday roast dinner with the kids. Well if you follow my Instagram account you will see just how we have dinner in our house. Definitely not as a family of four that’s for sure. Once the kids were bathed and Ruaidhrí in bed. Paul and Roman had their one on one time together playing Minecraft and building a town together.

My Recent #ParentWin 👍😁🌈

Check out the video 👇👇👇👇

If you read my post from last week of my weekly adventures with my two boys. You will read that at Easter time Roman had asked me for Rainbow Hair. Yes you read that right. My response to him was wait to the summer holidays. 
Well last Thursday Roman had asked when the summer holidays was. I had replied to him tomorrow once school finishes son. He got a little excited and had blurted out. Mum remember I get to have rainbow hair at the summer holidays. Well I happened to be working a 12 hour shift and Roman was off to his Nanny’s for the weekend. So I had the weekend to go get his coloured hairspray.

I went to the pound shop which is just as good as anywhere to get the hairspray. I got him blue, green, purple, red and a sliver glitter. Would have got him more but that’s all they had. He had no idea that I was getting him them straight away.

So when he came home on Sunday afternoon he was well chuffed and could not wait to get his hair sprayed.

#ParentWin 

My Week Of Adventures with R&R!!! 😎🙃🤔

Another week down and it’s the last week of June. Summer officially starts at the weekend when this post will be published. 

I spent Monday all day in work. When I got home Ruaidhrí was already in bed and Roman was out with his friends. I actually  sneaked away for a night with my friends to see The Chainsmokers. Had a great time but it’s safe to say that 11 years of going to fesitivals I am finally done. 

Ruaidhrí decides that he’s going to have an unsettled sleep all through the week until Saturday. No joke that boy was up and down like a yoyo more times than enough. He makes it quite hard to function sometimes. 

The boys went swimming on Tuesday. Ruaidhrí is making good progress with head under the water for a few seconds only. And he’s not even phased by it. Thank the heavens his daddy is a swimming teacher as my heart is in my mouth most of the time. Roman on the other hand is coming on leaps and bounds. Swear once he comes out of that pool he farts like he’s been eating beans and eggs for weeks on end. And has this surge of energy like he’s been swimming in a pool full of sugar water. Daddy also went out and got Ruaidhrí a bouncy swing too. He loves it. 

I was back at work on Wednesday for another 12 hour shift. However, was back on time to tuck Roman into bed and do his bedtime story.

Thursday was Roman’s Pre-School Graduation ceremony. And boy was he good I was so proud of him. Ruaidhrí even behaved himself through it all too. In the afternoon Roman went round to his granny’s to play with his friends. Ruaidhrí and I just chilled out on the floor trying to get him to crawl but he’s having none of it. He’s a yap. My son is a yap!!!  We all had some of Roman’s graduation cake. Once Ruaidhrí went to bed the other two stayed up and played Minecraft for a while. At bedtime Roman had asked when summer was I told him the next day after he finishes school. Well this boy as the memory of an elephant never forgets a thing. He got excited as back at Easter  I told him he could have rainbow hair come summer holidays. So that only left me with one thing to do while he went to his Nanny’s for the weekend.

I worked another 12 hour shift on Friday. Roman went to his Nanny’s for the weekend to see his daddy. While Ruaidhrí got minded by granny while daddy and I worked. Daddy finished early at 4 and the two of them had a nice wee evening together. Ruaidhrí was sleeping by the time I got home from work. 

Daddy had a charity football match to go to. So he was away quite early Saturday morning. Which left me and the banshee together alone for the day. We got on us went to granny’s. Forgot they had a wedding to go too. So we went walking to Asda, then called into my aunt’s to see my cousins new wee one who was born at the start of the month. She is beautiful Harley Rose and sure all Ruaidhrí done was get up to his usual banshee wailing. ( I think I have his Halloween outfit sorted). It was 12pm by this time. This child had been up from 6am and had still not had a nap. Like seriously don’t think he read the memo on his way into this world how he’s meant to sleep.  Moving on! We went over to the shopping centre had our lunch done a bit of shopping (Roman’s  coloured hairspray). Ruaidhrí starred to get really unsettled. That was our que to go home. Finally got him down at 1.30pm for a nap and he dis not wake up until 5pm. I got the whole house cleaned with about 2 hours to spare. He woke up we had dinner. He got bathed. We went to the shop he got a party of Wotsits and me Onion Rings. (I know for him it’s a party). We watched Baby Tv. He got 9 crisps and then he flaked it and went to bed at 7. Slept right through until 12.45am or 1.45am. Then until 5am. What a fucking result. Think he knew I was on my own.

So today is Sunday and Roman is home. Once I picked him up. We went to order his birthday t shirt. Paul picked us up and we then went to mini golf and a big soft play area with the two boys. Paul and Roman played mini golf, as Ruaidhrí had fallen asleep in the car. So I sat with him until he woke and we then joined the boys at the mini golf course. After we went to Indiana Land, which is a big soft play area which is very quiet. It’s never been bunged with kids whenever we have wenr. Ruaidhrí had his first proper day playing in the soft play and he started to kids himself in the mirror. Afterwards we went home, had dinner. Roman found his coloured hair spray and now has rainbow coloured hair. He couldn’t wait to get out and show his friends. Once he came in Paul and him sat downstairs and played their Minecraft for a bit. Now they are both in bed beside me watching Minecraft YouTube videos on the Tv. 

Now too see what the summer holidays brings us.